Blogging by MJ and Bella's Dad

Mark and Fred and Their Kids Need Your Help

2012-02-24T13:45:00.002-08:00

For those of you who don't know, my friend Mark and his husband, Fred are a bi-national couple. Mark from the US and Fred from France. Long story, short...the US government (because of Defense Of Marriage Act- DOMA) will not recognize their legal marriage (they married in California when it was legal) and France will not recognize their adoption of their four children. They are one of many, many bi-national couples who need your help in getting the US law changed. Recently, Mark and Fred applied for a permanent residency status for Fred with Mark as his spousal sponsor. Today, Mark has let everyone know that request has been Denied. Not only is this a really unfair and unequal treatment by our federal government, but also is cruel and unusual treatment of their children. Children who are innocent by-standers in all this.

Their children are US citizens. They have only lived in the US and speak English. Who are having one of their parent forced from their lives if they stay in the US. If they move to France with this father, they relationship to him is completely ignored and they have no legal standing. This is outright cruelty. These children deserve MUCH BETTER from our country.

Please, if you can, imagine that this family was part of yours. Mark or Fred could be your son, brother or cousin. Their children could be your nieces and nephews. Would you allow this injustice to happen to your family? Please contact your Representative and Senators and tell them to repeal DOMA. After that, hop on over to their site and make a donation to their legal fund.

A Post from a Facebook Friend

2012-01-26T10:01:00.000-08:00

It is so great to see that EXCELLENT CUSTOMER SERVICE still exist somewhere in the world.

We have a New Addition to the Family

2012-01-25T10:20:00.000-08:00

No, no, we have not been blessed with a third child. But, we have been blessed with an au pair. Sila has joined our family from Spain and will be staying with us for at least a year. We met Sila through the agency, Au Pair Care.

Sila is a very beautiful inside and out. She is very loving and caring toward our children. She has been a godsend for our family. She is up in the mornings to help get the children breakfast and Michael ready for school. She drives Michael to school and brings him home. Sila takes the children to the park and prepares them lunch during the day. She has began to teach them Spanish songs and words. All this while she is also attending classes in the evening.

Prior to coming to the USA and living with us, Sila obtained an education in Performing Arts. She hopes to one day have a career as an actress. She is a very creative and active person. She is not afraid to express herself and does so with in a very loving way. We are truly happy that Sila chose to come and live with us.

Her mother should be very, very proud of her brave, bright and caring daughter.

Oh and before I forget, Sila has a blog, too! Jump on over there and tell her I said, "Hola!"

No Cavities !!

2012-01-24T12:52:00.000-08:00

Our little angels went to the dentist for a checkup today. I am proud to report a perfect checkup. The first words out of my darling children's mouths upon leaving the dentist office....."Daddy, I want some candy."

The Kindergarten Quest

2012-01-20T15:56:00.000-08:00

The time has come for our little boy to start kindergarten. Who knew the agonizing torture we would be putting ourselves through just for kindergarten. I know some of you are thinking, "It is just kindergarten, relax." If you fall in this category, please read on and you will understand.

he is growing so fast

Our son's birthday is very, very close to the age cut-off for him to attend kindergarten next year. Thus the first concern -- Do we send our bright and intelligent little boy on to school are do we hold him back another year and opt for transitional kindergarten at his preschool? I can't tell you all how we have vacillated on this one particular question. There is a plethora of research that supports both opinions. It is enough to drive one mad. Papa and I have decided we will go ahead with the application process and make a final decision when the time comes. Because we have decided to proceed, our next dilemma arose. Do we send him to public, parochial or independent school? At the beginning, Papa was of the thought, "I went to public school and turned out ok." I wasn't so confident. The State of California over the years has racked up a massive debt and slashed education funding as part of it effort to stem the flow of red ink. I wanted and was able to convince him that we should keep all of our options open. We decided to apply to one parochial, two independent and two public schools. (Side note: Where we live, your children don't necessarily go to the school in their neighborhood).

We, meaning me, began our task this past summer researching the local schools and their admissions policy. It is a very good thing we started when we did . The application process is very extensive. With the private schools, you must first request a tour of the school, attend an open house event, complete the application and submit with family photo and individual photo of your child, complete the parents questionnaire, then an assessment interview of your child is scheduled. The public schools have tour dates scheduled for you to see the school then you must complete a school district application and rank your school choices. At the present, we have toured and applied to all the schools. We are currently in the assessment phase at the independent schools.

The public school we chose to tour were the two closest to our home. These tours were lack luster, to say the least. During the first school's presentation, the presenters would brag about the wonderful music teacher, the awesome school library, the excellent PE coach (which is offered ONE day a week for 50 minutes), and at-cost After School Programs that offer many options for your children. Then they would follow-up these comments with, "Thanks to the funding by our PTA." Yes, the school is a more affluent part of the school district. Which cause me to think, "If this school is only able to offer these things because the PTA is funding them, then what are the schools in less fortunate neighborhoods doing?"

When I was a child and went to public school, my schools had a music teacher, an art teacher, a PE coach, and a cafeteria with food that was prepared in the attached kitchen. These schools we have toured only offer such things in a limited capacity and only because they are funded by the parents. As far as the place to eat lunch, the cafeteria is an old gym (since they aren't using that for it intended purpose any longer) has table and chairs setup in it an the food served it frozen shipped from the district and warmed onsite.

The parochial and independent schools all have the wonderful tours and impressive offerings. However, the cost of these schools is not for the faint of heart and is it worth it? If we send our children to public school will they be put at a disadvantage so early in life? Will they truly excel in the other schools?
Like any other parents, we only want the best for our children. As such, we are tortured.

Washington,DC at its Best, NOT!

2012-01-12T08:49:00.000-08:00

"If the US Government was a family, they would be making $58,000 a year, they spend $75,000 a year and are $327,000 in credit card debt. They are currently proposing big spending cuts to reduce their spending to $72,000 a year. These are the actual proportions of the federal budget & debt reduced to a level that we can understand." —Dave Ramsey

Family Equality Council Turns 30

2012-01-10T14:09:00.000-08:00

Wow, 30 years for an LGBT families organization! We discovered Family Equality about 3.5 years ago and have a participated in some of their activities. Please support this awesome organization, if you can.
The following is from their email announcement:

This year, we will mark the 30th anniversary of our organization. Over the past 30 years we have worked tirelessly to strengthen our families by building our community to support parents and children, sharing our stories to open hearts and minds, and raising our voices to create social justice for all families.

Today, because of our work, we have a strong community of parents and children, grandparents and grandchildren who reach across this country. They live their lives, raise their children, worship, and pay their taxes in New York and Los Angeles; Jacksonville and Little Rock; San Antonio and Detroit; and all points in between.

For three decades, we have worked to create a world where those families and ALL loving families could be recognized, respected, and protected.

This year we will celebrate the positive changes that have made the world a better place for those 1 million families with parents who are gay, lesbian, bisexual, or transgender.

The work has not always been easy, but it has been rewarding.

So this year, I ask you to resolve to join us by celebrating our anniversary, committing yourself to help advance equality on behalf of our families, and connecting on a deeper level with the growing community of families supportd by the Family Equality Council.

CELEBRATE

Come celebrate our community at one of these major events that mark our year-long celebration of Family Equality Council’s 30th anniversary.

At our Los Angeles Awards Dinner on February 11th and at Night at the Pier in New York on May 8th, we will gather together our families, supporters, friends, and allies where we will celebrate our accomplishments and talk about the important and urgent work that still needs to be done to protect our families.

Join us for our first Family Weekend in Washington DC from May 17-19, when families from across the country will learn more about how laws and policies affecting our families are made, talk to members of Congress about issues that are important to us, raise our voices to make sure that our families' stories are heard and validated, and experience the thrill of sightseeing in our nation’s capital.

Celebrate with us in Provincetown at Family Week (July 28- Aug. 4) or at the Midwest Families Conference (Apr. 27-28) and Family Camp (July 20-22) in Minnesota, where our children can meet, play, and make friends with other children with LGBT moms and dads.

Mark International Family Equality Day (May 6) or show your Pride in your family (month of June) and use those opportunities to gather in an environment where our families will be respected and celebrated.

Even in the midst of our celebration, we recognize there is more work to be done for our families. So we have resolved to use this year to recommit our organization to changing the world for future generations of families. Here is how you can resolve to commit yourself to be a part of that change.

COMMIT

Commit to spreading the word about Family Equality Council to at least three new families this year by sending them this link to sign on as a supporter.

Commit to sharing your story to introduce more Americans to LGBT families. Our public education efforts help change attitudes and policies so that all families will one day be valued for their commitment to one another.

Commit to learning about the issues that are important to our families in this election year. Check back soon at our new website to learn how you can influence lawmakers and policymakers with just a simple mouse-click. Make sure that in this most heated of political environments the lies and untruths told about our families don’t go unanswered.

Finally, we hope you resolve this year to help connect with families in your community and with some of the millions of other families across our country.

CONNECT

Become active in your community byconnecting with your local LGBT parenting group. If one doesn’t exist in your neighborhood, allow us to help you make the connections that will help a new group thrive and flourish.

Connect with us online. In a few weeks, we’ll be launching a rich, user-friendly new website that will allow you to connect with other families and with us. We’ll also be launching a new child development newsletter for new and expecting parents to share useful information about important health and wellness milestones. Stay tuned this month to learn more.

Connect with us through “Scan & Send It" – an upcoming program that will give you an even bigger voice in changing systems to truly include all our family structures.

Connect with us on Facebook and Twitter. More than 3,500 friends joined us on Facebook last year and our Twitter followers nearly doubled. Follow and friend us for a chance to raise your voices for fairness.

This year, more than ever, we resolve to make a world of difference for all families.

We hope you’ll join us in celebration, make a meaningful commitment to fairness for all families, and connect with the growing community of parents and children, grandparents and grandchildren across this country.

On behalf of the board and staff of Family Equality Council, I wish you a healthy and happy New Year.

Jennifer Chrisler

Executive Director

His Mom's Should Be Very Proud.

2011-12-01T12:27:00.000-08:00

2011-09-29T08:49:00.000-07:00

Okay, okay, I owe you all a huge apology. I have not been a good blogger at all. You have to understand, I have a full time J-O-B, a four year old in preschool and a soon to be two year old (who is into EVERYTHING), a new home that we are trying to get ready for us to move into, adoption finalization date we are preparing for and the list goes on and on. I hope to soon have something better than this apology up.

Until then, please check out my friend, Mark's Blog. I promise you will not be disappointed,

My Belated Birthday Gift !

2011-06-23T10:50:00.000-07:00

Home, Sweet Home

I guess I can forgive him for not getting me anything for my birthday.

What is Good for the Goose is Good for the Gander

2011-06-22T09:59:00.000-07:00

I find these two stories very upsetting. Could someone please tell me that my African American child will not have the face these similar situations when he is older. Some please tell me when he is older the OVERT racism will no longer exist. Someone please tell me this will not happen to him (Man thrown off US Air flight for saggy pants) when the same airline allows this (Man in Female Panties flies on US Air).

Shame on you US Air, SHAME!

Whole Foods Parking Lot

2011-06-17T10:00:00.000-07:00

This is how I feel about Trader Joe's, Peets Coffee, and the list goes on and on here in the Golden State. Sometimes it feels like we get in line for the line.

Papa is a Great Uncle (Wow, he is getting old)

2011-06-13T08:55:00.000-07:00

Everyone, Meet Adrian!

Move Over Pablo, Michael Is Here!

2011-06-10T08:51:00.000-07:00

Michael's last day of preschool was this past Tuesday. He brought this lovely piece of art home for Papa and me. I recently came across this news story and the thought came to me. "Hey she has nothing on my kid. I need to call that gallery and tell them he is a three year old prodigy."

I Like It

2011-06-09T09:30:00.000-07:00

They have been playing this song on a local station for about a month now. I have been trying to find the song with no luck until now. I hope you all enjoy it as much as I do. .

My Birthday, Just Another Day, Well Kinda

2011-06-03T14:20:00.000-07:00

Yesterday was my birthday. I took the day off work to enjoy My Day. Ha! Maybe it is just me, but a birthday is a special day and those in your life should treat you special. Let me tell you how the one significant person in my life treated me for my birthday and tell me if I am overreacting or not. The day started off with hugs and kisses to wake me up at 7:30am. This was fine and good even if I did say I wanted to sleep-in. I am a morning person and didn't mind. Had breakfast with the kids before they left for the day. As he is leaving he says, "Enjoy your day, I left you a note on the kitchen counter." All excited I go to check it out as fast as I can as they pull away from the house. The "letter" is a list of CHORES, yes CHORES !! I think to myself he is probably planning an evening for us and doesn't want the sitter to see the house in a mess. So, why not do a few things. First, I had an appointment to get my haircut. When I got back from my haircut, I cleaned the kitchen, did laundry, vacuum and mopped the floors all with the hopes of getting a big payoff in the evening. I even worked in the yard a little. Later in the afternoon, I call him and tell him I will pickup the kids. He says, "No, I will get them, just enjoy your day off." A reconfirmation that he MUST have something planned. While waiting for them to arrive home, I call him and asked what did he think I should make for dinner. He says, "We will have leftovers." I think "Leftovers?" "He knows I hate leftovers.""He IS taking me out to dinner and just doesn't want to tell." They finally get home. He asked if I could take care the kids while HE gets dinner together. I think, "Oh, he is going to cook dinner for me. How sweet." (When he cooks, it is good. I say again WHEN he cooks). So, I am playing with the kids and keeping them busy when like 15 - 20 mins later he says dinner is ready. I think, "WHAT?" I take the kids to the table and get them all setup in their chairs. HE PUTS PLATES OF SLICES MICROWAVED PIZZA ON THE TABLE!! I have no idea where he got it from. But, I would not be surprised if he picked up at the deli inside the grocery store. The SAME GROCERY STORE my cake came from that HE PICKED UP ON THE WAY HOME !!!

NO CANDLES !!

NO BIRTHDAY CARD !!
And to add insult to injury, NO GIFT !!

I understand that when you have children, they become the most important things in your life. I don't expect the real nice night out on the town and dinner with all our friends anymore. I don't expect the real nice gifts anymore. They say it isn't the gift but the thought that counts. Tell me, what thought it took for a piece of microwaved pizza and store bought cake!!!!

Ugh!

2011-05-26T09:58:00.000-07:00

Thanks to my two adorable little germ factories, I am not feeling it today. Chicken soup, blanket, pillow, tissue, and medicine here I come.

Hooray For Texas!

2011-05-25T14:51:00.000-07:00

The Kids - Update

2011-05-19T11:43:00.000-07:00

It is time to try to get back to telling you all about the most important thing in my life, our kids. They are growing like crazy. We are doing everything we can to keep up.

JANUARY

Here Bella is learning to pose for the camera.

She didn't like the flash, thus the closed eyes.

Michael's class had a visitor from SFPD and they were all made Jr. Officers.

He was so proud of the fact, we could not get him to take this off.

We also went to Texas for a visit with the family.

FEBRUARY

We went to Hawaii for vacation.

MARCH

It is just soooo much work being a Diva

APRIL

Easter Time!

I just can't wait to pull this one out when she brings her first love home.

I give you one guess what is their favorite part of Easter.

May

Micheal's school had picnic in the park.

They are growing so fast.

YIKES !

2011-02-17T09:25:00.001-08:00

Let Me See....Where Do I Start?

2010-12-15T13:27:00.000-08:00

I know, I know, it has been ages since I blogged last. I am sorry. Enough said. I will start where I left off last and give a long blog of pics today. That way if a picture is worth a thousand words, then I am done with the writing.

September, Michael started preschool.

If you can't tell by these pics, he loves school

Labor Day Week, we went to Yosemite National Park.

October was time for our annual trek to the pumpkin patch. The Half Moon Bay Pumpkin Festival wasn't that good for us this year. Oh well, there is next year.

October, Bella also stared walking just before her first birthday!

While Michael learned about Native Americans at school.

But the best thing to happen this month was Maw-Maw's visit!

November, We went to So Cal for Thanksgiving Holiday.

Michael got to play with his cousin, Jaxon.

The weather in Palm Springs was great!

Papa tried to work outside the office....Michael and Bell had other plans for him.

Our Little Princess was very, very demanding....So much so, that I can't even express how thankful we were for this moment...

November was also school pictures for Michael

We are now at December. I will have give you some more on December as the month progresses. I promise to try and get a few more post in before Christmas.

The Christmas Can Can

2010-12-06T09:25:00.000-08:00

One of the Best Mom's Ever!

2010-11-08T08:08:00.000-08:00

Hello Everyone,

I wanted to share this blog with you that was recently sent my way. I wish I could reach across the world wide web and hug and kiss this mom. If only every mom were like her...

http://nerdyapplebottom.com/2010/11/02/my-son-is-gay/

Still Here

2010-10-19T09:47:00.001-07:00

Sorry for not being a good blogger. Tons of things are happening at once. I promise to get something up soon.

Fun in the Sun and Bella

2010-08-31T13:26:00.000-07:00

We have been having some nice and sunny summer days here in San Francisco. For those of you who don't know it, summers in San Francisco can be down right frigid. I mean bring out the coat and mittens kinda cold. However, that is is for another post.

Now, where was I? Oh yeah, we have been having some really nice, sunny and hot days in San Francisco. Daddy, Michael and Bella all decided to take advantage of it and go the park. We had a really fun time.

As can be seen in these pics, Bella has moved in and is right at home. She is a very active little girl and is all over the place now.

We are all doing really well.

Look At Me, I'm Three!

2010-08-30T10:42:00.000-07:00

His third birthday has come and gone. In this pic Papa is trying to show him how to make the number three with his fingers. If only I had a video of the whole event. It was the cutest sight ever. We had planned a big trip to East Coast. However, those plans were changed with the addidtion of little sister. We stayed here on the West Coast and went to Six Flags instead.

Papa went out and got him a birthday cake. I told Papa that Diego is our new favorite. As you can see from the picture, Papa didn't listen. It turned out okay because Elmo is still a really close friend.

And because he is big brother now, he wanted to push little sister around in the stroller. Just between you and me, big brother was riding in the same stroller by the end of the day. :-)

Happy Happy Mom !!

2010-08-17T08:33:00.000-07:00

Dear Children, A long, long, long, long, time ago your Maw-maw was a young girl, too.
Today she marks another milestone by adding additional decade to that length of time.

I know you two think she is the sweetest most loving, and giving person in the world.
Have I got news for you!
Back in the day she would never let any of her kids get away with half the things
she lets her grandchildren and great-grandchildren do.

I guess old age does soften ones heart or something.
Yet, even at such an advance age she is still spry little old thing.

HAPPY BIRTHDAY MOM!

Please Allow Me to Introduce Bella

2010-08-16T10:15:00.000-07:00

Bella has officially moved in and made her presence known.
She and big brother, Michael, are getting to know each other very well.

All in all, things are progressing very well. Fortunately, Michael has had a only a few moments of sibling rivalry. Our beautiful little girl has arrived and fit into our little family very well. She already has Papa "in her back pocket".
As you can see in these pictures, it won't be too long before big brother is taken down.

Sorry for the Delayed Updates

2010-07-29T09:14:00.000-07:00

Hi everyone! Sorry for the delayed updates. Daddy and Papa are trying to adjust to the night time feedings and the new morning and night routines. We are exhausted. Given this is the case, I am going to use a one of my parenting tactics, distract and entertain.

Checkout this blog! It is super entertaining. I wish I could blog like my friend, Mark. I am sure he won't mind "taking up some of my slack." Mark and Fred are dads to FOUR children. And we are struggling with two. Mark, how do you guys do it?

Enjoy Everyone!

After This Weekend

2010-07-26T12:05:00.000-07:00

We had the baby with us all weekend and returned her to the foster home this morning. Two things have become very evident this weekend. A home with two children will never be clean nor will it ever be quiet again. From Michael's toys dropped in every room of the house to the baby's accessories (bib, binkie, etc) staying where ever it was they were put down then moved by my toddler son, life will never be the same. With one, I managed. I could go in behind him and maintain a halfway decent home. No longer is this the case and I am having a difficult time dealing. I know some of you are saying, that is the way it is and I should get over it. I would agree with all, however, that little kid who got the "Captain Clean" award at summer camp just will not let it go.

Oh and BTW, please pardon the poor grammar and etc. I am still trying to recover from the 2am feedings. :-)

The Waiting is the Hardest Part, Segment Three

2010-07-22T09:29:00.000-07:00

Tonight is overnight night! Her crib is ready. Her pj's await! Big brother is asking where she is and saying, "Papa go get baby."

Weekend with the Baby

2010-07-20T12:23:00.000-07:00

This past Friday and Saturday were visitation days for us. We got to bring her home with us for the day on Friday.

Michael got to meet her. He didn't like her being in there without him. When we weren't looking he figured a way to climb in and have fun with his new little sister.

Saturday we departed the foster home by 9am for a second day of fun. It was also the adoption agency's annual BBQ in the park event. We invited the Foster Mom to the event. She came and brought some of her family, too. This is a picture of her and her grandson with the baby. This actually turned out to be a great event for her. Having been a foster parent to babies for 20+ years, she was able to see some of "her children" at the event. They ranged in ages from about 11 years old to, of course, 9 months in age.

I only look big because she is so small (yeah, that's it).

And here is our little botanist in the making.
All in all, it was a fantastic weekend!

Our Little Girl!

2010-07-13T08:17:00.000-07:00

Yesterday was a very important day for us. We got to meet our daughter for the first time.

Yee Haw, Ya'll !

2010-07-12T09:27:00.000-07:00

This past weekend we went to the rodeo. For those of my friends who have never lived in the country. It is pronounced "ro-de-o" NOT "ro-da-o".
As you can see from the banner above, we went to the Bill Pickett Rodeo.

Below are some pics taken. Enjoy

Papa couldn't resist getting him a cowboy hat.

Oh...And Don't Dare Hum Along with the Theme

2010-07-08T14:27:00.000-07:00

If you go back in my older post you will come across Backyardigans Have Fallen. Well, their replacement, Yo Gabba Gabba, has long since been replaced by a long, long standing champ, Go Diego Go!

I can't tell you all how many times this has played in our home, our car, our travels. "IEGO," as he is called in our home, has been our favorite for a long, long, long, long (well, you get the idea) time. Baby Jaguar and the whole crew are always topics of conversation. We get to watch the daily episode and then get a full breakdown of the episode by our little expert commentator. Since it was one of the best episodes ever, we get to watch it again. And like the title of this post says, "Don't Dare Hum Along with the Theme," because HRH Prince Michael doesn't enjoy your interruption and will make you start the whole thing over.

Potty Time

2010-07-02T12:44:00.001-07:00

Our little boy is growing up! I am home from the office early today for the holiday weekend. While I was rushing around the house getting prepared for the busy weekend ahead, I hear,"Daddy, all done pinished" coming from the bathroom. This is what I see. He has been using the elmo potty and now, I guess he has decided he is too old for that! :-)
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The Sunshine in Our Lives

2010-06-30T08:28:00.001-07:00

Here he was working on his computer like Daddy was on his.
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The Waiting is the Hardest Part Cont'd.

2010-06-29T11:09:00.000-07:00

We are STILL waiting to hear from the social worker. I understand they are probably understaffed and overloaded with work. BUT, the waiting is just killing us! Look at her, would you? She is so adorable.

Pride 2010

2010-06-28T12:37:00.000-07:00

This past weekend was the 40th Annual LGBT Pride Celebration. We marched again this year with the Our Family Coalition and COLAGE contingency. This year was a difficult choice because our church, St. Paul's Episcopal Church Oakland also was part of the parade and requested members of the congregation to march. Our solution, wear t-shirts for the church and march with the other. I think it was a fair compromise.

Funny thing happened on the BART train to the event. I am wearing my bright orange St. Paul's shirt (the SF Giants have similar colors) on the BART train with Micheal in his stroller. The train is full of people and I have my back to the doors. A group of gay guys gets on the train and one comments to the other, "Wow, lots of people and look I guess there is a Giants game today, too." To which the other says, "No, read it, it one of those gay religious things." I turned and looked and then he says, "Oh you can hear us." I smiled and said, "Yeah, thanks for noticing my shirt."

We got to hang out with Adrienna and Jeremiah and Rebecca and Maziah. Then at the Family Garden, we met up with Tony and Bruno and Teresa and Darius. It was a great to see everyone.

The Waiting is the Hardest Part

2010-06-21T08:10:00.000-07:00

Isn't She Beautiful

We have submitted our homestudy and continue to wait to hear if we are the chosen ones.

Saturday In the Park ...

2010-06-15T15:45:00.000-07:00

It was one of those very rare hot days in San Francisco this past Saturday. Micheal and Daddy went to the park and had a great time. Here are some pictures of Michael riding his tricycle and swinging in the big kids swing. He was very proud of himself for mastering two things this day. Actually, I was talking with a friend and noticed my big kid feeling all confident trying to climb to the top of the one of the larger slides in the park. After calming myself to prevent cardiac arrest, I rushed to prevent him from discovering he actually isn't a superhero.

It's My Birthday!

2010-06-02T08:43:00.001-07:00

Today, I made it around the sun once again. I was concerned with how I would feel about this day. Strangely enough, I feel just fine. I have come through life's ups and downs and am doing good. Life isn't perfect; and it is far from bad.

If I could go back and tell this kid a few things, I wonder if I would.

Don't get me wrong, I am happy with my life. It has taken me a long time to get here, but I have made it. I think Mary J. says it best....

No time for moping around, are you kidding?

And no time for negative vibes 'cause I'm winning

It's been a long week, I put in my hardest

Gonna live my life, feels so good to get it right

So, I like what I see when I'm looking at me

When I'm walking past the mirror

Don't stress through the night, at a time in my life

Ain't worried about if you feel it

Got my head on straight, I got my vibe right

I ain't gonna let you kill it

See I wouldn't change my life, my life's just fine

Other May Activities

2010-05-27T11:47:00.000-07:00

May has been such a busy month for our family. In addition to the previously mentioned, LGBTQ Family Night, we had a playdate with Maziah and his mom, Rebecca. It is always some much fun with them.
This time we went to the Little Farm and ...

....playground in the Tilden Nature Area.

In these shots, Michael discovered the tall grass and his ability to fall into it.

We also went to the Oakland Museum Opening Event. Michael just had to take a ride in the airplane.

This weekend we are off to Southern California. Until then, J.

Dr. Soto's Birthday Party

2010-05-27T11:40:00.000-07:00

A very good friend of ours celebrated his birthday.

Michael was absolutely the B-E-S-T!

It was way past his bedtime and he could not have been a better child.

Brushing Teeth

2010-05-27T11:31:00.001-07:00

Brushing Teeth
Originally uploaded by JmK SF

He is getting so big. Before you know it, he will be driving the car. I shudder at the thought of it.

LGBT Family Night @ YMCA w/Our Family Coalition

2010-05-27T10:57:00.001-07:00

LGBT Family Night @ YMCA w/Our Family Coalition
Originally uploaded by JmK SF

May 15th was the 12th Annual LGBTQ Family Night at the Berkeley YMCA. This event is co-sponsored by Our Family Coalition. They have swimming, basketball courts, and all kinds of fun activities for the whole family.

It was our second year attending this event. We participated in the raffle for the R Vacations trip. Michael loves the basketball court; and we spent most of the night in the Family Gym. The remainder of the night was in the tumbling room with the bouncy house.

If you all live in the Bay Area, I highly recommend this event to you. Our Family has a calender link for all their upcoming events. Truly and awesome organization for LGBTQ Families in the Bay Area.

DADT Project

2010-05-26T11:02:00.000-07:00

I came across this story today. It is such great idea. I wished I had come up with it. Being a veteran and having served under this policy, I am so proud that we are FINALLY moving to get rid of it. If a person is willing to lay their life on the line for our freedom, then they also deserve the right to be who they are in the open.

http://www.dadtbook.com/

So, hats off to Mr.Sheng for a job well done. I just placed my order and donation.

Michael's First Ski Trip

2010-04-16T15:18:00.001-07:00

Originally uploaded by JmK SF

Last weekend we went to South Lake Tahoe and stayed Timber Lodge. It was Michael's first ski trip. He actually went to ski school while Daddy and Papa tried not to injury themselves.

Is She Out There Waiting....

2010-03-04T12:09:00.000-08:00

We are starting to feel the pull. Is she out there waiting on us to come get her?

2010-02-25T12:33:00.000-08:00

http://www.flickr.com/photos/jasonepowell/sets/72157613841045343/

For those who don't know, I really like historical things. It fascinates me to learn the history about people, places and things in the present. So, I am doing my daily check of friends and their status. I get to my friend, Jen's, Google Status. She has this Flickr link posted. I check out the site and immediately love what I see. Check it out., some really cool photos. The link in the caption will get you there.

Thanks Jen for sharing the enjoyment.

2010-02-22T09:22:00.000-08:00

We are members of a local Meetup Group, LGBT Parents are Social Too! And, this past Saturday was the South Bay Event for the group, Roller Skating at the Rink. We all met at Cal Skate in Milpitas.

I must admit I was concerned at first. I haven't roller skated in almost 20 years. As another parent at the ring said, "At this age, when I fall, it becomes and major event. No longer is it fall, get up and go on." However, after a few times around the rink, Daddy was ready to take stab at teaching Michael.

I am so proud of my little one. He took to the rink like a champ! He wasn't going to let all the big kids show him up. That's for sure!

Fifteen Years and Counting...

2010-02-16T07:18:00.000-08:00

Today marks 15 years for Will and I. Where has all the time gone? Could someone please tell me?

Here's to another 15!

Still Here!

2010-02-05T08:53:00.000-08:00

Sorry for the long delay in getting a post up. After Christmas we traveled to Dallas and visited with family during MLK holiday. Have been busy with work, fighting colds that seem to keep being passed around the family and house hunting. Promise to try and be a better blogger.

Christmas 2009

2010-01-17T07:31:00.001-08:00

Christmas 2009
Originally uploaded by JmK SF

We made it through the holidays. Santa came to our house this year. He didn't have to chase us across the country for us to only end up shipping all his gifts home. Michael got a tricycle, tonka truck, Elmo DVDs and much more. I tried my best to tell Santa the drum would be best kept at the North Pole. However, Santa seemed to think Daddy's nerves would survive the nonstop banging. I guess, I am going to have to leave it out with for Michael when and PAPA are home alone. :-)

A Post from an Online Friend

2009-12-30T10:48:00.000-08:00

I want to say thanks to Bobby for this one. I whole heartedly agree with you!

But It's Still Sacred, Right?

Just in time for Christmas Karl Rove, the Senior Republican Advisor who engineered W's re-election strategy of mobilizing the Christian right against such issues as gay marriage and abortion, has been granted a divorce from his second wife Darby. (Darby sounds like a name for a racehorse, but in a party filled with Tripps, Mitts, and Saxbys, well it kinda fits. Still, Republican women love those out of date clothes with big fabric flowers on them so I bet she looks like she crossed the finish line first.) "Karlby" were married for 24 years, a record in Republican political circles. However, they apparently spent Christmas together (for the sake of the children I'm sure) and spokesperson Dana Perino said "They maintain a strong friendship, and they both feel that that friendship is a source of comfort and inspiration for their friends and family". Aww, how cute. I often look at two people who can't stand each other and think Wow, how inspiring! I'm having a crappy day, but I take comfort in the fact that Karlby are such great friends. In a break from GOP tradition, Karl did not leave his wife for another man.

Now I may be wrong, but when you've carried the torch for Jesus and told the faithful that you were doing everything in your power to protect marriage from the godless homosexuals, it seems to me that divorce would be unthinkable. I mean, he's wrecked two marriages now. That's two more than I've trashed. How do you get to use the argument that two men or two women cannot get married because they'd ruin it after you've failed twice? Or even once for that matter? None of this will matter a bit to the culture warriors bent on keeping gay people as subclass citizens. I don't hear any mega church preachers calling for them to reconsider, offer counseling, or even trashing them in the media for destroying a sacred institution. Nope. I guess it's OK as long as you're not gay, but we already knew that. Is that hypocritical? In the words of another great genius of our time...

Cute Video

2009-12-16T13:52:00.001-08:00

Thanks to my friend, Sarah, for this one....

Beep beep...get otta da way!

2009-11-29T23:10:00.001-08:00

Beep beep...get otta da way!
Originally uploaded by JmK SF

This weekend Michael feeling much better after his illness was up for a Sunday drive. Obviously, he takes after Papa in the way he drives!

ABC'S ABC'S

2009-11-22T14:04:00.001-08:00

Last night Michael had a fever. We gave him some Baby Tylenol and he went to bed. Thus, a restless night for me. He woke up once around 4am and ask me for juice. I got him a cup, checked his temp, and gave him some more medicine. Back to sleep until about 8am. We got up and check his temp again. It was just above 100 F. More Baby Tylenol.

The fact that he was asking for breakfast made us feel better. We all had breakfast together (this is becoming a Sunday tradition for us). He didn't eat too much; and he and Papa laid back down for about an hour.

By this time I was busy working on the laptop in the living room with the news programs on the TV. My little fella came running to me and sat on the sofa next to me. Put his head in front of my laptop screen and looks back at me and says, "Daddy". I say, "What Michael?" He says, "ABC's".

Awhile back while we sat at the airport waiting on a flight and Michael was getting impatient and testy, I pulled out the laptop and connected to the wifi in the lobby. Thank God it worked. Straight to youtube we went, I searched on Elmo, Michael's new favorite Sesame Street. This video with India Arie popped up.

Lately, Michael has been saying, singing, yelling, and whispering his ABC's. I was surprised this morning that he even remembered the video. Of course, I played it for my sick little boy over and over and over and over.

:-)

He and Papa had soup for lunch and are now fast asleep for nap-time.

Much Needed Reassurance

2009-11-10T07:47:00.000-08:00

With all the negative bombardment from everywhere that says our family type is wrong, lately, I have been concerned if we are doing the right thing. Will our child grow up to be an ok adult? Will he resent having been raised in a "non-conventional" family? Whatever that may be.

Anyways, this morning I was doing my normal routine of checking messages, reading the blogs I follow, and finding out the goings on of my 1200 closest friends on Facebook. I come across a posting from my friend, Alec, that made me feel much better about our family. Alec posted an article that discusses a study where he and his family were participants. The article is called The Mommy Files: Are same-sex couples better parents?, written by a straight mom. So, for all my fellow LGBT Parents, don't worry. The evidence is mounting that we may, in fact, be better parent than our "normal" counterparts.

After last Tuesday's Elections

2009-11-09T08:12:00.001-08:00

I must admit last Wednesday, I was in the words of Ms. Sophia in Color Purple, "I was feelin low, I was feelin mighty low." The results of Maine's Question 1 went against LGBT citizens. Then I came across Bill Delaney's article in the San Francisco Examiner.

Bill presented an interesting argument. He used historical data regarding interracial marriage and the civil right event for people of color in the U. S. It was very compelling and uplifting.

Jump on over there and give it a quick read.

Bevan Dufty for Mayor

2009-11-05T15:01:00.000-08:00

Heading over to the Bevan for Mayor fundraising event at Mo'z Cafe in the city. It is today at 5:30pm-7:30pm.

Half Moon Bay Pumpkin Festival

2009-10-28T14:45:00.001-07:00

On October 18th we went to Half Moon Bay Pumpkin Festival for the second year. This year wasn't as crowded as last year. The weather this year was much warmer. We did our usual shop at the vendors, tried various pumpkin flavored foods and stop at the pumpkin patch to get our pumpkins. Keeley came with again this year...however, she would not grant permission to post her pics.

Gay Dads Mega BBQ 2009

2009-10-28T14:40:00.001-07:00

Gay Dad Mega BBQ 2009
Originally uploaded by JmK SF

On September 26th we went to the Gay Dads Mega BBQ at Chrissy Field. It was hosted by Our Family Coalition, Facebook Group - Castro Dads, San Francisco Gay Dads Meetup Group and more from the East Bay.

Who knew there were so many of us out there!

Hawaiian Vacation and More Part 2

2009-10-27T14:08:00.001-07:00

Hi everyone! Sorry for the long delay. Work was busy and then colds and flu made a pass through our home. We went to Dole Plantation, Honolulu Zoo, Arizona Memorial and much more. Check out the Flickr account for more pics. This video is too cute! Michael wanted to drink the water on his own. However, the paper cups would not cooperate.

I must admit, I was concerned Michael was too young. My fears were misplaced. He had a fun time. Now, I can't wait for us to go again less the drama with the flights!

The flight home was just as disastrous as the outbound flight, if not worse. Shame on United Airlines! SHAME! Boo! Hiss! BOO!

Still Here

2009-10-01T08:27:00.001-07:00

Been busy with life and work.....hope to resume shortly. Sorry for the delay

Episode of 30 Days (Gay Adoption - Woman Against Living with Gay Family)

2009-09-11T13:29:00.000-07:00

I have mixed emotions here. It left me feeling sad. However, I believe this truly was an exchange that should happen more often. Any thoughts out there?

Hawaiian Vacation and More…Part 1

2009-09-10T23:39:00.001-07:00

This vacation was the first time Michael was required to fly in his own seat. Rather than lug his car seat, we discover the CARES Seat System. Here’s a picture from there website.

It is an FAA approved seat belt that surprising works very well. For those parents out there with a two to four year old, I highly recommend you put out the $80 it cost. Check out the website. They have a really cool video. (I have not received any compensation for these statements).

With the recent complaints from family, friends and coworkers, our expectations were very low for the airline. We were preparing ourselves mentally to deal with the nightmare that airline travel has become.

WE SHOULD HAVE SET OUR EXPECTATIONS MUCH LOWER!

Our first “challenge” occurred when sat down at the computer to check-in online with United. Our seats had been changed. Things happen and I understand seats can’t be guaranteed until the flight actually boards. However, when they put your two year old son in a seat all alone in row 25 and you and your spouse are in seats back on row 32 and you can’t change the seats during online check-in. That is inexcusable. I got on the phone and call the customer service line. Forty-five minutes later and having been transferred to four different United representatives, we still had a problem with the our boarding passes. The call ends with the final representative recommending we go to the airport and speak with a ticketing agent. The day of take-off we go to the airport and got in line to speak with the ticketing agent. The agent tells us she will be able to able to all us on row 25 “for a fee”. We inquired as to why there is a fee. She says we needed to pay an “upgrade fee” to be in Economy Plus seating. We inform her we originally booked all three seats in Economy Plus seating. She checked the record. By the way, has anyone ever wondered what the heck they are typing forever and a day when they are checking the record? How many keystrokes does it take? You would think they are working on a manuscript or something. I digress. Ultimately, we were able to get our seats together.

We moved on to the TSA screening and got to the gate with our flight boarding and the United gate agent paging our family. We walked up to the counter. He asked for our tickets and checked the record. Again with typing the Bible. He handed us back our tickets and told to get in line to board. No explanation, No “thank you”, NOTHING!

At this point I am telling myself, “We are on vacation, just relax.””Everything will be ok.”

We got to our seats had the CARES system setup in no time. While we are doing this the flight attendant came by on the opposite side of the plane and requested we step in so “others behind us could pass.” The person behind us told us to just ignore her. The best person ever.

The flight went ok and we got to our destination. Checked into the hotel and got an awesome room. Oh, did I mention they gave us breakfast every morning free of charge? It was so nice. Breakfast for all three of us, pot of coffee and a newspaper every day we were there. The weather was perfect. Crowds were nonexistent. We had an awesome time. Michael loved the beach. Well, the kids beach at the resort.

More to come….

Birthday Fun and More

2009-08-27T14:51:00.001-07:00

Birthday Fun
Originally uploaded by JmK SF

Michael's Second Birthday was this past Friday. Daddy and Papa took the day off and took him to Sonoma for a day at the Spa. Well, a day at the Spa for Daddy and Papa and a day at the pool for Michael. Michael also got to go to Sonoma TrainTown Railroad.

Saturday, we went the Our Family Coalition BBQ & Campout in American Canyon. We did the BBQ only because we had plans early Sunday.

Sunday, we were suppose to go to GayDads Meetup Pool Party. I got up and start getting our swim suits, sunblock, and food all together for us to take. Papa gets a call and has to "run by the office real quick". Long story, short, three hours later we finally get the pool party and there are NO CARS there. Trying not to loose my temper at my spouse and keep a great weekend going, I readjust my attitude and work on coming up with a Plan B. We do a little house hunting and decide to meet a friend who lives in Oakland. After having lunch we had a little play time in the park at Lake Merritt.

The upcoming week we will be in Hawaii on Vacation!!

HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO MICHAEL JOSIAH !!

2009-08-21T10:03:00.000-07:00

Today is my little boy's second birthday! Happy Birthday son, Daddy and Papa love you very much. So much, in fact, we decided to treat you to a day at the spa in Sonoma!

Oakland Zoo with Jeremiah and Adrienne

2009-08-11T11:26:00.000-07:00

This past Saturday we went to the Oakland Zoo to hang out with Adrienne and Jeremiah. We met at the gate and did just about every ride and exhibit they have at the zoo. Jeremiah went to the SF Giants game the previous day and brought the baseball the pitcher had thrown to him. He also brought a gift for Michael. The was also a concert for the kids there. It was performed by Rhythm Child . It was a great time for all.

Gay Dads Night at Squat N Gobble

2009-08-05T11:40:00.001-07:00

Gay Dads Night at Squat N Gobble
Originally uploaded by JmK SF

Last night we attended our second of the weekly Gay Dads night out. These events are fun. We have got to meet some very nice people. Last night some Moms also participated (Great Addition!) I hope they come to more.

Playdate with Lexy and Robert

2009-08-03T09:52:00.001-07:00

Originally uploaded by JmK SF

Michael had a playdate with Lexy and Robert Neil this past weekend. I am so jealous of my friend Liz. One girl and one boy and having the time of her life while I am at work dying to get home to my little one.

Backyardigans Have Fallen!!

2009-07-30T14:13:00.000-07:00

Well, it is official. The Backyardigans are passé. The new "it" program at our household is Yo Gabba Gabba! Or as Mr. Michael likes to call it....YoGaga! YoGaga!

Kodak Moments, NOT!

2009-07-27T09:00:00.001-07:00

Yesterday we went to the Gilroy Garlic Festival. It was my first time to go and Will's second. I thought it would be a great thing for the family to do on a Sunday. The ordeal of getting to the darn thing and then the dust, heat and enormous crowds have given me pause about ever going again. The traffic jam on Highway 101 five miles out from the exit should have told me this wasn't going to be a pleasant experience.

Anyways, we get to parking area (a huge hay field) and have to catch a bus to get to the actual event. We wait on the line in the heat with dust blowing all over the place and sticking the sweat that has formed. Like a trooper, I try to make it fun and get the family & friends to pose for pictures (Sidenote: I took the 35mm camera that uses film in place of the new digital one).

We get on the bus, and get to stand in another line to get tickets. By this time the Vente Starbuck's we left San Francisco with four hours earlier has worked it way through. I find a rest area just past the entrance to the event and there is no line (THANK GOD). It is hotter than Hades inside this little box. But, hey, when you gotta go, you gotta go.

And we are off, there several bands playing at different venues around the place. There are tons of food and drink vendors. Now is great time to note that in the past I have heard people go on and on about the variety garlic "foods" (i.e. garlic loaf, garlic ice cream, etc). I only saw TWO, yes TWO garlic ''foods" 1. Garlic Ice Cream with a line longer than it would be worth waiting to get and 2. Garlic Fries which after waiting in line to get, I am sure I make WAY BETTER.

We visited the booths (looking for a hat for Michael). I have seen far more booths at the various San Francisco Street Fairs. Then we see more food and beverage vendors (all with NOTHING to do with Garlic) as we are heading to the Children's area of the fair. This is by far the best they have to offer, in my opinion, even if the dust is so thick you can feel it between your teeth. Like a good parent, I am snapping away with shots. These are going to be such good pictures. I can't wait to get home and develop them.

After this area has been explotied for all it is worth, Papa has had it with the place and is ready to go. Daddy is so apologetic to our friends as we head back to the line to catch the bus back to the car. 45 minutes of waiting in line and bus ride back to the parking lot, we are back in the oven we call our car. Following the exit signs that say Highway 101.

At one point of waiting in traffic along the Highway 101 path, I see a large number of vehicles making uturns and heading back the way we came. That little voice inside is telling me we should do the same. BUT, I stay the course, the good ole folks of Gilroy wouldn't do me wrong with these signs. HA! We come to the freeway and the only direction possible is SOUTH, yes SOUTH, the WRONG direction unless you want to go to LA. We drive to the next freaking county before there is another exit so we can cross over and get on the freeway in the right direction. Oh and don't you worry one bit, we got to contemplate the days events while we sat in the PARKING LOT called Highway 101 North. Another hour and we have finally gotten past the exit for the festival and are heading home.

By the time we are back in familiar territory it is dinner time and I AIN'T COOKING! We stop to get something to eat and are back home in time for the family to start the night routine.

Now, by this time you are thinking the title of the blog makes sense. Well, you are kinda right...the kicker....I FORGOT TO PUT FILM IN THE DANG CAMERA!!! I am thinking to myself, "How many for shot before I can develop the film?" I pickup the camera to check and there is absolute nothing....NOTHING...there.

Squat.N.Gobble

2009-07-23T08:14:00.001-07:00

Squat.N.Gobble
Originally uploaded by JmK SF

Tuesday night was dinner night for the family with The Castro Dads group. It was our first time with this group. We had a great time. It was really good to get to meet families like ours.

Pride 2009 Parade

2009-07-03T15:20:00.001-07:00

Last Sunday was the SF LGBTQ Pride Parade. Michael and his Daddy marched with some friends and other LGBT families in the Our Family contingent. After the parade we hung out in the Family Garden at the Civic Center. It was a fun playground for the kids to be with their families at the Pride festivities. Afterwards, we rode BART home, had dinner and a bath, went to bed early. The whole family was tired.

What is Marriage?

2009-06-23T09:07:00.000-07:00

Ok, so I can't take credit for finding this. That would be an online friend Michael. However, I thought is was so powerful, I had to share it.

Also, wanted to apologize for the delay in the blog. I have been busy with work and taking a class at UC Berkeley. I will try to be a better blogger.

Smiling for Daddy

2009-06-08T16:11:00.001-07:00

Smiling for Daddy
Originally uploaded by JmK SF

This past weekend we had a playdate with Miziah and his Mom, Rebecca (See the pics on top). Michael had a bad fall and busted his lip and skinned it, also. As you can see from this picture, it wasn't that bad. But, let me tell you Daddy and Papa felt like the worst parents on the planet.

Life Imitating Art - Gay penguin pair raising chick

2009-06-05T12:16:00.000-07:00

If you have heard of the book And Tango Makes Three

....Well, now you have. This is a book about two Daddy Penguins raising a baby. It is very cute and, YES, controversial. Anyways, I am reading throught my RSS feeds and come across this cute story and thought I would share it.

Night Time Prayer

2009-05-31T21:47:00.000-07:00

You know the night time prayer that most of us learn as a child....it goes like this....

Now I lay me down to sleep;

I pray Thee, Lord my sold to keep.

If I should die before I wake.

I pray thee, Lord, my soul to take.

<throw in your God Blesses here...i.e. God Bless Papa, Daddy>

And this I ask for Jesus' sake.

Amen.

We have been saying this prayer with Michael since he turned one year old. Well, he has finally started trying to say the prayer himself. He loves the part when you say God Bless...He now says Papa, dada, maw-maw. It is just too cute.

2009-05-28T15:29:00.001-07:00

Last weekend was Memorial Day Weekend. I took Thursday and Friday off for an extended weekend. There were plenty of things to do. You know, that stuff that keeps getting put off until you have time to do it, but you never seem to have time to do. I worked on those things. Well, I tried to work on those things. It was Memorial Day Weekend, you know. I had to hav ea little fun. Friday, I took Michael to San Jose and we had a play-date with Dante and Vienna and their Mom, Pauline. Two of the cutest babies I have ever see. Well, after my son, of course! :-)

Saturday, we went the SFMOMA. I have a friend, Jaime, who works there and invited us to visit the new rooftop exhibit.

Saturday night, I started getting a sore throat (that is still with me, BTW). But, like a trooper,Sundaymorning I got up and dressed myself and Michael for church. Afterwards, we had lunch with some people from church. Sunday afternoon, we ended up at a friends house in Fairfield, CA for a BBQ. (Don't have pics for that, so decided to show you these of my awesome son!) He already has got a larger than life personality.

Monday was Memorial Day and I was just too sick to do anything but make sure I hung the flag.Yep, my parents raised me right. Patriotic to the the core. Tuesday came and I was back in the office. I had to give a presentation during an early meeting. Making matters worse, I was using PowerPoint 2007 for the first time. Feeling ill and trying to overcome the learning curve made for a challenging experience. I guess the presentation was good. I have received and overwhelm amount of compliments. Later that morning, the CA Supreme Court handed down its ruling on Prop 8. I believe the court made a huge mistake. Regardless of where you stand on the Same-Sex Marriage issue, I think they open the door for discrimination in a huge way. Allow a majority to change a constitution to exclude or limit the rights of a minority is extremely dangerous. Wonder how the Christians supporting Prop 8 would feel if in place of Same-Sex Marriage, the language of Prop 8 took away one of there civil rights for some other ridiculous reason. The below commercial that is soon to be aired on TV here in CA expresses it perfectly.

2009-05-18T09:42:00.000-07:00

This weekend was a great weekend. Saturday morning the family went to our adoption agency, Family Builders, and participated in a panel discussion on life books. We presented one of Michael's life books as an example. Below is a shot of the cover of the book we created using blurb.com.

We plan to try to do a yearly book for him. I hope to have him help me put the book together as he gets older. During the panel, we got a few ideas from some other families that presented (examples: a supplemental DVD with videos and etc that could be viewed or a supplemental book to go with the life book). It was a really great discussion. I must admit when we started Michael's life book, I felt a little intimidated and confused as to how to proceed. All the training emphasizes the therapeutic use of the life book. That approach was a daunting task. Therefore, we took a different approach and decided to try the best we could to follow the rules and provide the "required" information for it to be a life book. The final product has come to be sort of a combination of life book / baby book. We learned at the discussion we are mostly on track and have nothing to worry about regarding our format.

Saturday night Will and I attended a birthday dinner of a friend of our, Hermes.

It was at Pres a Vi here in San Francisco. Fun times.

Sunday morning Will and I had brunch with a new friend, Adrienne. She has a son named Jeremiah. We are just getting to know her and hope to develop a great relationship with them. Here is a pic of them from last summer.

Sunday evening we went to dinner with another friend, Keeley. It was great to spend some time with her. All in all, we made some real good memories this weekend.

The Car

2009-05-14T08:48:00.001-07:00

May 2009 021
Originally uploaded by JmK SF

Over the Easter Holiday Weekend, we visited with family in So Cal. Michael's cousin, Jaxon, had a car that he loved. Needless to say, Daddy went to the store and got one for him this week. It was assembly required project. And I do mean ASSEMBLY REQUIRED.

I get home with the box and bring it into the house (first mistake). Michael immediately recognizes what it is from the picture on the box. He tries to get into the box straight away. Papa opens the box (second mistake) in the living room and tries to assemble the thing without looking at the instructions (third mistake). EVERYONE has to get the picture here....The main body of the car is in the middle of the living room floor with Michael climbing into it, there are pieces from one end of the house to the other (ok, I exaggerate here, but only a little)...Papa trying to make two pieces fit together (that don't even belong together --I discover after READING the directions)....and me trying to keep Michael from crying because the car won't move and keep Papa from destroying the thing before we even get the dang thing put together and trying to read the directions. All this while both of the dogs are freaking out and barking like crazy at everything.

Needless to say, about an hour and 45 minutes later the thing is fully assembled and Peace has been restored en la casa.

TGIF

2009-05-08T11:39:00.000-07:00

It is Friday, Thank God!

Not much planned for the upcoming weekend. However, the weather is supposed to be really nice; and I do really need to work in the yard (all 25 square ft). So....looks like I will get the chance. Then think Daddy and Michael will go to the coffee shop, post office, and park to play for a bit. We have been invited to spend Mother's Day with our Gay Dad's group. Still thinking about this one. Sunday is also house hunting day. I really hope Papa has a good list this weekend.

Climbing, Climbing and Climbing

2009-05-04T12:21:00.000-07:00

First, I want to give a "shout-out" to my friend and Mommy of twins, Pauline. I really miss having you around on daily basis.

Michael has taken to climbing. He climbs on ALL the furniture in the house. It is driving me crazy. I am terrified he is going to fall and hurt himself. I want him to gain confidence and learn by doing. However, it is really causing my heartrate to go crazy. I am already going gray and this kid is trying his best to remove every last bit of color I have left!

On another note, last Friday, was Michael's first visit to the dentist. I took the day off and Daddy and Michael had a boys day out. We went to the adoption agency to visit with everyone. We went were going to go the park....but....it rained. We went to the grocery store, coffee shop and then home for lunch.

Saturday was another rainy day. Daddy and Michael put on our rain clothes and ran our errands. Saturday night, Daddy and Papa went out with friends and Michael had a sitter.

Sunday, Daddy, Papa and Michael went house hunting. We found the perfect house for us in the Oakland hills. Get there and the agent informs us the house just sold on Friday. Urgh!!!!

Little Basketball Player or Picasso ?

2009-04-27T14:43:00.000-07:00

This past weekend was great. On Saturday night, we went to an event hosted by Our Family Coalition. Michael loved the basketball court. It was fantastic. I would pick him up and he would drop the basketball through the basket (obviously, it was a net at height for kids) and put him down and he would get so excited trying to run and catch the ball. I wished we had taken the camera with us.

On Sunday, we went to church. It is a church we have been visiting for about the last month. So far, I like the church. I was able to drop Michael off at the toddler space for a short period of the service, before he realized I was gone. I went back to get him when you could hear the wails in the sanctuary. When I got there and got him to calm down. We gathered his diaper bag and toys and the lady gave me this Masterpiece. Our first piece of refrigerator art!

Stick Figure Families

2009-04-23T08:39:00.000-07:00

On my way into work this morning I was stuck behind a minivan (God's curse on us all - the minivan, that is). On the window was one of those stick figure family decals. I know you all have seen them. It had a dad, mom, a boy, a girl, a boy and a dog. It got me to thinking, "Hmmm, do they have alternative family decals?" "If they do, maybe, I should get one to publicly express our family."

I get to the office and get the my morning routine of check the emails, drink coffee, read the updates and check the schedule. All set, I launch into my Google search. I find a plethora of sites for these things. Some you can create your own family stickers. Others you can order stationary with the them on it. Tote bags, coffee mugs, you name it they got it.

Then, I come across this site and had to share it. The lady has got a point and brought me back to reality. I would never be one to put it out there about myself or my family. It took a HUGE effort for me to even start this blog. Besides, there is NO WAY Will would even let me do something like that. Maybe the stationary.

The GAYS are Coming ! The GAYS are Coming!

2009-04-22T11:17:00.000-07:00

So, I wanted to take a quote from my friend, Jen, "I h8 fear mongering more than like anything ever....i’m talking about the crap we’re bombarded with every day targeted towards the average joe that makes us freak out and think omg the storm is a-brewing! armageddon is upon us and lets do something about it! (because if there’s one thing we’ve got control over its the end of the world..)"

It amazes me more and more everyday how the American public allows themselves to fall for such ignorance. The video plays on the fears of the American public. The video also tells straight out LIES.

One part that gets to me "My freedom will be taken away." Could someone PLEASE tell me how allowing a gay couple to share the EQUAL RIGHT of marriage will take away an other's freedom?

Or how about the "I am part of a New Jersey church punished by the government...." Somebody correct me if I am wrong, but doesn't the U. S. Constitution guarantee separation of Church and State. Has anybody read the First Amendment to the U.S. Constitution lately?

And the one that carries it over the top, "But some who advocate for same-sex marriage have not been content with same-sex couples living as they wish." Being a gay man living with the man I love for almost 15 years. TO THIS DAY, THIS GAY COUPLE HAS NOT BEEN ABLE TO LIVE AS WE WISH. THE LAWS OF THIS LAND DISCRIMINATE AGAINST US! If we could live as we wished, our relationship would be recognized by the Federal government and all 50 states. If we were living as we wished, we would not have to live in fear that if something happened one the other would have to fight for the rights a spouse automatically has in the country!

If it is ok to discriminate against gay people, then which of your rights are next?

I am a tax paying American just like you are. I deserve to live my life under the same rule of law as you. Our forefathers established this country to be a Plural Society. Given that fact, I don't have the right to force my faith views on you and you most definitely don't have the right to force yours on me.

Kitchen Table

2009-04-22T08:05:00.001-07:00

Kitchen Table
Originally uploaded by JmK SF

Yesterday it was extremely hot in San Francisco. I left the office early and picked up Michael. We got home and he goes into the kitchen and start slapping the refrigerator (this means get me something to drink beeeyotch). I get him something to drink in his sippy cup. While I am doing this, he pulls out the chair from under the table. I am thinking he is going play under the table like he usually does. I turn around and he has climbed into the chair and is sitting at the table. I HAD to get a picture and share. I love this little one so much!

Grandma Reiko

2009-04-17T16:16:00.000-07:00

Michael hasn't seen Grandma Reiko since February/March of last year. He has spoken with her on the phone. He was initially afraid to go to her. However, he finally warmed up to her after she gave him tons of gifts and some candy when Papa wasn't looking. Then at Uncle Sean and Aunt Lisa's house he let her play with him. We really should make a better effort for Michael to be with his family in Southern California and Texas.

Checking Messages

2009-04-15T12:29:00.001-07:00

Checking Messages
Originally uploaded by JmK SF

Here is another pick from this past weekend. Michael was the cutest ever. He has been watching his Papa at the desk and did EVERYTHING that he does. Even typing, stopping and taking a drink from the cup, then typing more. It was sooooo cute!

Easter in Palm Desert

2009-04-13T11:53:00.000-07:00

We went to Palm Spring / Palm Desert area for Easter. Papa had to do a little work. Daddy and Michael played, shopped, ate, played, shopped some more, and played again. It was so much fun. I will post the pics and videos at the flickr site.

Papa did eventually find some time to come to the pool with Michael and Daddy. They splashed and played in the water for about an hour. Then he and Papa got out and we had snacks and juice poolside before nap-time.

This was probably the best part of our weekend. The resort was about 95% to 98% straight. We most definitely were the only "Rainbow Family". It was so funny to watch the people look at us as we come out to the pool and look at us and try to figure out what was happening with us. I LOVE THE OVER THE SHOULDER "I AM NOT LOOKING AT YOU" GLANCES. Then the group huddle conversation. The puzzled looks on their faces is so priceless! My favorite was the older women who put the book she was reading down and stared at us the whole time bewildered.

However, the ignorance was very frustrating at the airport. We had a late flight back. Micheal was sleepy and grumpy. At this point we are all tired and just want to get on the plane and go home. They announce family boarding for those of us with children younger than two. The gate agent stops me and says "Where is your family? I announced family boarding." I turn to Will with Michael in his arms and say, "We are all here." The agent looks at us then the boarding documents I gave him and then at us again. Then he says, "Oooooohhhh, okay, go ahead." I was ready to punch the guy.

Kindle or Not ?

2009-04-08T13:26:00.000-07:00

So, I have been mulling this one over and over. I am torn. The "gadget geek" in me wants to get it. Not to mention the fact that I could have more than just one book at my fingertips. The "old man" in me like the good ole book in your hands. the worn pages on my second or third read. Thus, here I am stuck in this dilemma of do I buy the Kindle or Not?

I am getting old!

2009-04-07T09:35:00.001-07:00

I am getting old!, originally uploaded by JmK SF.

I am thinking it might just be time to consider a "little work". I am looking so old.

Giants Game

2009-04-06T11:06:00.001-07:00

Giants Game 2, originally uploaded by JmK SF.

Michael went with Daddy and Papa to his first SF Giants baseball game yesterday. He got a baseball cap and got a on the field seat.

Sleeping in Daddy n Papa's bed

2009-04-06T08:24:00.001-07:00

Sleeping in Daddy n Papa's bed, originally uploaded by JmK SF.

Michael had a bad dream this past weekend. He refused to go back to sleep in his own bed. Papa had to work that evening, so I put him our bed with me. It took him forever to go back to sleep. I finally got him to relax and he fell into the deepest sleep.

Smile for Daddy!

2009-03-30T09:32:00.001-07:00

IMG00029.jpg, originally uploaded by JmK SF.

Daddy: Smile
Michael: I can read his mind..."Take the picture, already!"

NO! NO!

2009-03-30T09:31:00.001-07:00

IMG00028.jpg, originally uploaded by JmK SF.

Daddy: Come on Michael, Smile!
Michael: NO! NO!

NO!

2009-03-30T09:30:00.001-07:00

IMG00027.jpg, originally uploaded by JmK SF.

Daddy: Michael, Smile!
Michael: NO!

2009-03-27T20:11:00.000-07:00

A friend gave us the gift of Signing Times DVD collection. We have been working with Michael and watching them with him. He watches them with a laser focus. I was so excited and happy when he came into the kitchen this evening and was signing for "milk". He actually didn't want milk, but something to drink. However, he is getting the concept. I highly recommend these DVDs.